The Hypocrisy of the Abortion Issue

This post has nothing to do with my children ... if you are only interested in kid related things ... you might want to skip this one!

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I'm pro-choice. 100% unequivocally, regardless of reasoning behind it, pro-choice. I don't care if you are told from your doctor that you need to terminate a pregnancy even though you don't want to, or if you are a teenager that is on your 14th abortion, I am pro-choice. I do not want anyone telling me what I can or can not do with my body, therefore I will extend the same respect to others.

I don't *like* abortion. But really, does anyone? Does anyone honestly think there are people that have sex thinking "Oh gosh, I really hope I get pregnant tonight so I can abort it!"? That's ridiculous. Of course not.

Sometimes I think the anti-abortionists are just stupid. They always make it sounds like people make some quickie decision to run out and have an abortion after picking up some milk and bread. Ya know, like it's the "easy" choice. And yes, I will use the term anti-abortion, not pro-life. Everyone is pro-life. If we weren't, we would be running around killing ourselves. It's illogical. And how many of those anti-abortionists are pro-death penalty? Or pro-war? A whole ton of 'em. It's the whole conservative right wing Republican view point.

But my absolute favorite is that most Republicans are against welfare, food stamps, WIC, etc. All those programs that help people who can't afford things themselves. So, they want to FORCE all women who get pregnant to have the baby, but as SOON as that baby comes out, they refuse to take care of it. They don't want programs for single moms. We all know the tagline "Get off your lazy ass and get a job if you need money. Get a job if you need benefits." Because, ya know, that's easy. It's SOOOO easy to get a job with benefits ... that's why there is NO ONE is the USA without medical benefits, right? Yeah, exactly.

So I guess they have no problem making a woman have a child, even if that women is a child. Even if that women has no job, no benefits, no means of taking care of the child. But once that baby is here, that lazy ass women should get off welfare and stop having so many babies she can't afford. Is it just me, or is this a total "WTF!" moment?

Blech. All this BS surrounding the stupid Tim Tebow commercial is annoying. We were discussing it on a board I belong to, and someone commented that there should have been a counter ad with a mom saying "Here's my son. I should have aborted him" and it was Charles Manson. Not every baby grows up to be Tim Tebow. Not every mom survives. Yeah for her for ignoring her doctors and having everything come up roses in the end. How about an ad that show a 5 year old girl crying saying "I wish my mom had listened to her doctor" after she lost her mom during a subsequent pregnancy where the mother ignored her doctors, and DIDN'T make it. It's just not as black and white as people make it out to be. Which is why I am so very pro-choice. I think this tough of a decision needs to be between a woman and her family. And I am not the type of human being that wants to sit around and judge a women after making what is probably the toughest decision of her life. Abortions happen for all sorts of reasons. Some we consider "acceptable" (rape, the mother is going to die), some we consider unacceptable. I'm not willing to make the differentiation. I wish that more people would focus on THEIR family ... and not mine, or anyone elses.

Here is a fantastic blog post that everyone should read. Mrs Spit Still Spouting Off

Enjoy,
Caba

Are you a Republican?

If so, you might not like my link I am about to post.

Have you read their blog? Margaret and Helen It is fantastic.

And this post, well damn, it's a good one. So I figured I would share it will you all.

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On the home front, things are status quo. My sister's twins were christening a few weeks ago, but we forgot the camera in the church, so I have no good pictures. And you will be happy to know that neither me or my husband burst into flames when we walked into the church.

I did laugh to myself when I promised (as Godmother) to help raise the kids in the Catholic faith. If it's up to me, those kids will be questioning everything in Sunday school. I'll be all "Ask the teacher why incest was ok after Adam and Eve had kids, but why it's not allowed anymore. Ask the teacher if he *really* believes there was a talking snake. Ask the teacher if he believes in evolution. Ask the teacher if you get pregnant in high school, do you think you could use the *immaculate conception* excuse, and might your parents believe you."

hehe ... Yup, I'm going to be an AWESOME Godmother.

We did get some snow today ... nothing insane ... like 5-6 inches. The kids are napping, I'm blogging, and then it's playdoh time after they wake up.

I took some cute pics of them this morning, playing in their tent and tunnel thingy they got from Santa. I will post soon.

Enjoy,
Caba

So ... who would like an invite ...

So, after the [evil site] debacle, my friends and I decided that as wonderful as it is to talk and snark amongst ourselves, which we do so friggin' well, we would like to chat with some of the other friends with made out in this big crazy internet. So, we started our own little forum. It's completely closed, which means that you can't stumble across it and sign up. You have to be invited ... We want to make sure we like the people there ...

So, who wants to join us? Yes, a lot of us are atheists/agnostics/alternative belief system chicks, but not everyone. We even have a nutty born again Christian who is both insane and very funny at the same time.

And it's not all about religion ... we talk parenting tips, current affairs, tv shows, cooking, crafting, shopping, fashion, etc.

The cool thing is that it's not one of those huge sites with 20 billion people that you feel are impossible to get to know people. It's small, intimate if you will.

There are LOTS of multiple mommies ... since we all came from the same site... but we've opened it up to our person friends as well, so there are singleton mommies as well.

More importantly, it's no bullshit, you can curse, you can talk freely, there isn't any bullshit politics or mods on power trips. Just cool people chatting it up.

Anyway, if you would like an invite, I need your email address.

You can email me at caba.twins@gmail.com. Because we aren't opening it up to the world, I'm not willing to let strangers in ... sorry. You need to give me a link to your blog or I need to "know you" as a frequent commenter. Sorry, just trying to keep it cool. We may eventually open it up to others, but not right now.

So, come join us! We do have a subforum to discuss all things non-religious, if there are any AAAers out there ... but we also have one for the believers.

Email me!
Caba

My Princess

I always really wanted a little girl. I'm sure that was partly because I AM a girl ... so I figured I would know what to do with one. I didn't know what it would be like to have a boy.

Well, let me just say that the Moop is like my best friend. I can't imagine not having that little dude. OMG, I adore him.

But this is about my little girl. She is so freaking cute. Seriously. And she is SUCH a girl. She loves playing dress up, loves putting on all her princess jewelry and princess high heels and walking around the house. She will walk up to me or her father and say "Mom, am I SO pretty?" ... and I will say "Boots, you are beautiful." And she is.




And, like every good princess, she has the CUTEST shoes EVER and lovely painted pink toes!!



God I love this kid.

Enjoy,
Caba

For Your Viewing Pleasure ...

I've uploaded our Baby Story episode to youtube!! So for any of you that may have missed it ... here it is!! Youtube doesn't allow you to upload a video that is longer than 10 minutes, so we had to split it into three different videos ... Enjoy!!

Triolo Baby Story Part One

Triolo Baby Story Part Two

Triolo Baby Story Part Three

Caba (aka Baby Story STAR!)

Friends

I want to talk about my friends today, specifically my online friends. I used to belong to a site for parenting. I'm not going to give them a shout out, because it's run by a bunch of fucking nasty, lonely, uptight, jealous bitches, and they don't deserve me sending anyone there. But, I digress ...

I joined the site and quickly found myself arguing with a lot of people. I'm not one to hold my tongue, and I'm not good at not giving up. When I'm arguing an issue, and I think I'm right, I will argue to the bitter end about it. The first big argument was about Healthcare. Yes, I'm embarrassed to say that I was on what I now consider to be the wrong side of the debate. I was talking against universal healthcare, and against there being a way for everyone to have healthcare. My stance was "If you want it, get a job." Now, this post isn't about that, and please don't yell at me! I have seen the error of my ways. I am now 100% for a universal healthcare system, or at least, a true public option. I don't believe that anyone in this country should be without healthcare. And it shouldn't be tied to your job. But again, this is about healthcare. We'll save that for another day. So, there were all these crazy liberals that I was fighting with on this site. Ugh, I hated them. Especially this bitch Jenni, who was REALLY rude to me.

So, fast forward to a month later, and someone posted about a friend who was pregnant with 5! FIVE! babies. WTF, right? Of course, it was after IUI. And everyone and their mom was responding with "Tell her to trust in God", "Tell her to pray on it", "God never gives us more than we can handle" or some such nonsense. I'm reading these comments thinking "Really? This is the advice???" ... So I chimed in with "Well, I'm an atheist. So the idea of giving something to God is silly to me. I would get many opinions from doctors, figure out all the risk, and talk with my husband and listen to my gut" or something like that.

Well, boy did I get hammered!!! "How DARE you say believing in God is silly! ... "God is NOT silly, and he will listen to you!" blah blah blah and more blah. I felt like Alice, but instead of falling into a rabbit hole, I feel smack dab into some sort of evangelical God-loving nightmare.

But the good that came out of it was a private message I got from Jenni, the bitch from the Healthcare thread. She said "OMG! Another atheist! I feel bad for being so mean to you in that other thread. I thought this site was nicknamed Jesus Loves [site name]". And thus, a friendship was born. Being the outspoken atheist and pot stirrer that I am, I started a thread to see if there were others like us. And low and behold, there were A LOT. It was awesome. And friendships were born. That bitch Jenni, well, I love her now. She's still a bitch, but so I am, and so is Anne, so the three of us are like triplets. Anne and I were separated at birth. How two people, one who lives in NJ and one who lives in Pakistan, can be the same person is beyond me. But we are. Hell, we would even have the same patronus. And the lovely Kelly, well, she decided to petition for an area all our own, a subforum where we could discuss parenting beyond belief. And she got it. Because she is awesome like that. And then we were able to talk about all the things you CAN'T or SHOULDN'T talk about in the public. Like how ridiculous we think religion is. And I met Millie, a person who is so different from me in so many ways, yet is a kindred spirit. And I met Siri and Ellen, two women that are so smart, so strong, so together (or so it seems) and yet so human. They have taught me a lot of different things in my life, taught me about ways in which I want to try and better myself. And I met Kristi, who is so outspoken and honest, and such an amazing and loyal friend. And Michaele, who has biting humor, a sharp tongue and a HUGE heart. She is fiercely loyal, and just an amazing friend. And I met Debi, who always makes me laugh and always scares me about the impending growing up of my twins, seeing the chaos her boys get into! And lastly, a newer addition, Rachael. A brilliantly intelligent woman, who is so secure in herself, it's a wonderful thing to see and look up to. Plus, she likes to fight about as much (if not MORE) than I do!

So, I have to say. I'm glad to be gone from that stupid site. I was banned for making a rude comment about mor(m)ons and their magic underwear. And yes, they do believe in magic underwear. Look it up. It's fucking funny, really. But I made the most amazing friends on it. And these friendships, they have evolved beyond that site. To us talking every day, all day. To me not working because I'm too busy chatting with Millie. To us planning a trip to see each other in Reno in March. To these women knowing my inner most secrets. I would venture they know more about me right now than some people in my real life.

I couldn't have asked for a better group of heathens. I love you guys more than you will ever know. Thank you for your friendship, your loyalty, your support. Thank you for forgetting about that selfish bitch that was against universal healthcare, and giving Caba another chance to fall into your good graces. Thank you for teaching me to be a better parent, a better person, and a better human being. Thank you for never letting me down. Jenni, Anne, Siri, Michaele, Ellen, Debi, Kristi, Kelly, Millie and Rachael, you girls mean the world to me. I'm glad to have found you all. I will forever be thankful to [evil site] for that. Love you all!

32 Flavors

My friend SweetPeaG said that this song lyrics were in honor of me. I love her for that. She is right, ya know. I am pretty fucking great. Sorry for the cursing, but it's warranted at times.

This has nothing to do with my kids, as you can probably tell. It's a drama that I will save for another day, because it's late, and I'm tired, and I can't rehash it at this moment. But when SweetPeaG sent me these lyrics I realized, god damn I have made some great friends. And for that, I will forever be grateful.


"32 Flavors"

squint your eyes and look closer
I'm not between you and your ambition
I am a poster girl with no poster
I am thirty-two flavors and then some
and I'm beyond your peripheral vision
so you might want to turn your head
cause someday you're going to get hungry
and eat most of the words you just said

both my parents taught me about good will
and I have done well by their names
just the kindness I've lavished on strangers
is more than I can explain
still there's many who've turned out their porch lights
just so I would think they were not home
and hid in the dark of their windows
til I'd passed and left them alone

and god help you if you are an ugly girl
course too pretty is also your doom
cause everyone harbors a secret hatred
for the prettiest girl in the room
and god help you if you are a pheonix
and you dare to rise up from the ash
a thousand eyes will smolder with jealousy
while you are just flying back

I'm not trying to give my life meaning
by demeaning you
and I would like to state for the record
I did everything that I could do
I'm not saying that I'm a saint
I just don't want to live that way
no, I will never be a saint
but I will always say

squint your eyes and look closer
I'm not between you and your ambition
I am a poster girl with no poster
I am thirty-two flavors and then some
And I'm beyond your peripheral vision
So you might want to turn your head
Cause someday you might find you're starving
and eating all of the words you said

Ani Difranco


Enjoy,
Caba

PS - Hey Jori! Thanks for stopping by! Email me: caba.twins@gmail.com